Kaitlyn Coogan
Equinox Staff
The Mabel Brown Room was packed with eager students on Feb. 28 when sex therapist and author, Ducky Doolittle, presented “Orgasms for Everyone.”
“I thought it was really entertaining and extremely funny,” freshman Kayla Lance said.
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KSC Pride worked together to get Doolittle to come to the campus to inform students not only on how to get the best orgasm of their life, but also to help students embrace the importance of being comfortable in their own skin.
She talked about the influence of labels and how some labels can be great while others can be harmful.
She also talked about how porn can be great to learn some new positions or new things to say but that no one should compare themselves to the people in the film.
These people are paid to do what they do, they are paid for the bodies that they have.
She said if a guy thinks they’re going to get a blow job like the ones in the film then he should pay his girlfriend that much money and it will be that exciting.
Doolittle then began to explain the human body, concentrating mainly on the vagina and the penis. She used projector slides to explain the “necessary” parts of each genitalia.
For the vagina, she first talked about the clitoris.
“This is the clitoris, the center of the f—ing universe,” Doolittle said while highlighting a diagram on a projection screen.
According to Doolittle, it is shaped more like a wishbone rather than, how most people see it as, the size of a pea or a pearl.
According to Doolittle, most women can have an orgasm through their clitoris.
“The nerve endings (of the clitoris) go up towards your navel. They also go through your legs, up past your butt, up your spine and into your brain.” Doolittle said.
About one in 12 women do not want their clitoris touched or they do not have any sensation, and this is usually caused by some pelvic injury when they were a child, according to Doolittle.
She explained that, like other injuries, when the body is healing scar tissue forms to heal the injury.
Like other injuries, physical therapy should be used to get that injured area back up to speed.
“The best remedy for that (scar tissue over clitoris) is to get a really great vibrator, like one that plugs into the wall so it can have a lot of power and use it like you would if you were going to physical therapy,” Doolittle said.
Doolittle suggested to the men in the audience that if they did not know how to get their girlfriend to orgasm then they should tell their girlfriend to touch herself and then just steal all her moves.
This also goes vice versa for women.
She also said that only 25 percent of women achieve an orgasm through penetration alone, and that is why foreplay is so important.
“If you remember nothing else tonight, no matter what your gender is, remember that an orgasm is a series of involuntary muscular contractions. The bigger and stronger your pelvic muscles are, the bigger and stronger your orgasm will be,” she said.
She also talked about the perineum, the urethra, and the erectile tissue. The perineum is where eight different muscles come together near the anus.
The urethra is the area where urine is eliminated but it is surrounded by erectile tissue.
The erectile tissue becomes engorged with blood during arousal.
A fact that most people do not know, according to Doolittle, is that women have just the same amount of erectile tissue as men do.
Women just don’t have the ability to see it like men do.
“Whenever we (women) get sex education, they teach us where our fallopian tubes are. What to know why we need to know where our fallopian tubes are? We don’t, you don’t need to know,” she said.
She then began to talk about the male body.
Doolittle interviewed 1,200 men and 99 percent of them said the tip, or the frenulum, of the penis is the most responsive area as well as the whole underneath part of the shaft.
This is because the underneath part lays against the skin of the body throughout most of the day so the nerve endings are closer to the surface and more responsive.
Women must recognize, according to Doolittle, that some men will never orgasm from oral sex.
Another tip Doolittle has for women is that when performing oral sex, not to take it all in since the tip is the most sensitive and use their hand to do the bulk of the work.
Although, when using the hand, there should always be some kind of lubricant used.
Men’s penises, on average, are four and a half to six inches long but have an additional three inches inside.
Sometimes women will push up on their boyfriends’ scrotum and the women will ask why they like that and the men will have no idea.
The reason why these men do like that is because of those extra three inches that men have inside of their bodies.
The same tissues that make up the scrotum make up the labia (or the lips of the vagina).
Directly behind the scrotum, and before the anus, there is a valley where inside the body the prostate is located called the perineum.
If pressure is applied to this area, where the sperm is made, it is almost like an instant orgasm, according to Doolittle.
“He will orgasm just like that because you are squeezing the prostate and it’s like ‘and good night’,” she said.
Doolittle ended her presentation with having the students in the audience text her questions so they could be anonymous.
She answered about four questions consisting of whether her breasts were real to why men only last three minutes.
“People have this idea that sex is penetration,” Doolittle said.
“Penetration is one sex act. Sex is how you live your life: it’s how you get up in the morning, put on things that make you feel beautiful, it’s the text messages you send your partner. Laying on the ground and looking at the stars, that’s sex. To eat food together, to laugh, all that stuff is sex.”
Kaitlyn Coogan can be contacted at kcoogan@ksc.mailcruiser.com