The dating generation today is different from my parents’. In my parents’ generation, they did not have cell phones to receive text messages, they had to actually put some effort in and get the other person’s digits and call them up on the phone. Men and women had to physically put in effort to see one another.
At Keene State College I have found that it is difficult to date other students because we live in a hook-up culture. My parents’ generation did not have Netflix to “Netflix and chill,” they actually went on dates such as drive-ins, or did other activities like bowling.
Dating today is difficult because not as many people go on traditional dates anymore. Now, when I am talking about traditional dates I mean going to the movies, out to eat at a restaurant, mini golfing, bowling, etc. We all know what it means when a guy says “Let’s watch Netflix and chill.” This means (in case you’ve never heard of it before) there will most likely be some sexually activity involved, so be sure to bring protection. This bothers me because our generation is all about sex.
Our generation is very lazy when it comes to communicating with people we’re interested in.
I believe if a person is really interested in someone, they should pack up the guts and ask them out face-to-face. For example, I refuse to go on date with a guy if he asks me out through a text message because I am old-fashioned and believe if a man is really interested in me he will make an effort to actually see me. When I match with someone on Tinder and they immediately want to take me out on a date I always say no. I believe I should get to know them as a friend before they get a date with me so they know me enough to take the opportunity to physically ask me out.
Females are intimidating creatures to the male species, if a guy does have the guts to (physically) come up to you and ask you out, try not to be so rude about rejecting him if you’re not interested.
If you’re not interested, let him know, but be nice about it. I would still keep a friendship connection so you’re not metaphorically kicking him in the groin.
Our dating generation is ruined because of dating apps such as Tinder, Plenty of Fish and OkCupid. Men and women today don’t generally go up to the person they are interested in and ask them out face-to-face. The reason why people do this is that they fear rejection or may be intimidated by that person. These dating services eliminate these fears because they are not face-to-face and they don’t have to deal with the real rejection. For example, when a guy asks a girl out at the DC in front of her friend group and she rejects him in front of her friends, the guy has to deal with embarrassment which isn’t a comfortable feeling.
The best solution to fix this in our generation is to not be lazy. By doing this men can get in touch with their masculine side and make respectable moves to actually go out with a female. I
am not saying they have to continuously buy flowers, chocolate or perform other romantic gestures to win a female’s attention (but it does help out.) Instead of asking a female out through text, try to go up to her and ask her. Take her out to eat or (my favorite) plan fun activities such as bowling, mini golfing, etc.
Ladies, we too are players in this hook-up culture game. We need to stop being so damn picky!
I am guilty of doing this: I tend to keep raising my expectations for men to sometimes unrealistic standards. We need to give the man a chance to go out with us and stop giving into the “Netflix and chill” date. We all deserve more than that.
This bothers me because our generation has become so used to the hook-up culture and using technology in dating that when we experience a romantic gesture in person, we don’t know how to react.
Leigha Hall can be contacted at lhall@kscequinox.com
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