Most people think that those who get married at a young age must be either crazy or pregnant.
People tend to forget that marriage is a serious thing.
Many people tend to fear it sometimes because it is a huge commitment.
Some young people today cannot handle that commitment.
The whole concept of marriage fascinates me because of the extreme change that takes place between two people in love.
Young adults may have already encountered a recent change in their lives by either moving out of the house or heading away to college, so when I hear about young couples getting married, I find it interesting.
I can see pros and cons to getting married in your late teens or early twenties.
These young adults get to marry someone they love.
This is a good thing if they’re actually in love with this person because many people confuse love with infatuation.
The difference between the two is that infatuation is delusion and love is unconditional: the real thing.
This means that if they’re infatuated they are basically obsessed with that person.
They [constantly] have an uncontrollable sexual desire for that person, which is only temporary.
Love takes time, and with time deepens into something stronger.
Trust me, I may never have been married, but I have learned my lesson through my past experiences that love and infatuation are completely different from one another.
I have once (or twice) been infatuated with someone.
Moreover, I have realized that young adults normally tend to carry less baggage.
When I say less baggage I mean that they may not have to worry about children or baby-mama/baby-daddy drama.
It is easier to have fun with someone who has less baggage.
However, there are some cases where young adults end up having children and there is nothing wrong with that.
I once dated a guy who was around 21-years-old and had a two year old son.
I am not going to lie, it was very challenging for me because there was baby-mama drama
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there and it was a lot of work, which scared me a bit because I didn’t like kids at the time.
In the end, I couldn’t handle the baggage and decided to end things between us.
For young couples, it is easier to combine their lives because most young people are just establishing themselves.
It becomes easier for them to mesh their lives together because they don’t usually have a whole lot going on besides school or work. They also get to grow up and mature with each other.
By doing this they can see their significant other at both their best and worst, which is an important learning experience that everyone goes through.
Those who marry young have a lot of time to work on their marriage.
I say this because people who are starting out their adult lives are normally either working or going to school full-time.
Apart from their social lives, they have a huge gap of time that they could use to enjoy each other’s company and build their marriage.
Now that I have explained the pros, here are the cons I see for people getting married at a young age.
Young married couples may struggle to stay dedicated.
I believe some people forget that marriage is “til death do us part.” Young adults (including myself) have a tendency to want more.
Many young people use social media, which I believe can lead to temptations.
For example, when I was in my last relationship my boyfriend at the time would like other girls’ pictures on Instagram or Facebook. I didn’t care if he liked a photo or two because I trusted him, but boy was I wrong.
He wanted to see other people while we continued to be together.
I never dropped a man out of my life so fast; I didn’t want an unstable relationship in my life.
We are all greedy in our own little way, but being greedy can push people away, especially loved ones.
Nevertheless, I would also have to disagree with young married couples who desire to start a family right away.
Marriage isn’t a signed agreement that couples have to start popping kids out immediately.
When two people decide to get married and decide to also start having kids at a young age, I see this as a problem. Especially if they’re just starting out their lives together.
They haven’t been together long enough to deal with their own marriage problems.
Throwing a kid into the equation will be very stressful and may even end in divorce.
Problems with money are generally why most people get divorced. I believe young adults typically struggle with how they manage their money.
Everyone at some point in their life may experience financial difficulty. When people get married they (usually) join their accounts.
Since young adults are starting their lives out they normally do not have the perks of making a whole lot of money compared to those in their late twenties who generally have their actual career going for them. Especially if they have never faced a problem like this before in their lives.
After viewing the pros and cons of couples getting married at a young age, I personally would marry young.
I find the pros outweigh the cons and that the cons could be solved with a little communication between both parties. The way I see it, if you really love that person then, by all means, tie the knot.
Leigha Hall can be contacted at lhall@kscequinox.com
